In House Separation

With an in-house separation partners remain in the same home with more space and adjust expectations for their relationship for a period of time.

  • In-house separations are usually short-term and offer couples a cool down period during a particularly intense time of conflict, crisis or tension.
  • An in-house separation usually works best when one or both partners simply need some space to sort out feelings and decide to detach or have minimal contact for a brief period of time but choose to stay together in the home. This kind of separation actually happens naturally in many relationships, during high-stress times during conflict periods, partners will detach and get space to cool down and regain perspective on the relationship.
  • What’s important in an in-house separation is that each partner works toward reducing and adjusting expectations of the other for a period of time.This can be done by creating a separation agreement with your spouse or partner.

In house separations are often chosen first and desired because both parents remain in the home with their children. They are also financially advantageous as they do not require the maintenance of a second residence.



Taking Space – How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship
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The Separation Agreement
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5.0 out of 5 stars best book I have read in a long time, very thorough.

- Hannah Latta

This review is from: Taking Space: How To Use Separation To Explore The Future Of Your Relationship (Kindle Edition)

"This book is by far the best book I have read on the subject of separation. The author is extremely thorough in describing various scenarios of different couples, their conflict, type of separation, process of resolution or dissolution. It touches on how to talk to the children, goals during separation, how long to separate, and what kind of separation to use for different cases. I appreciate the depth and length the author went in sharing his experience in this book to help others."