Separation Advice
What does communication and strokes have to do with relationship separations?
Some partners may be thinking they have a good relationship, but just need to do more regarding communication, strokes and more intimate experience. While others may be thinking all they do is fight and exchange negative strokes. … Continue reading
What actually happens during the process of psychological separation?
As one or both partners withdraw their energy from a pattern that has not been working, some new space and energy can open up for individuals and perhaps the relationship as well.
Imagine that you are in… Continue reading
Trial Separations
Trial Separations
If your conflict is destructive or very difficult to manage, or one that leads you to believe that the relationship is simply not working anymore, you might want to try a trial separation. Trial separations also… Continue reading
Managing Crisis and Conflict: First Steps
Whether you are working on strengthening your relationship or considering separation or in the process of divorce, managing your conflict and anger is always the first and most important action you can take.
If you are in a crisis!
Many… Continue reading
All Couples get stuck and sometimes have conflicts that are hard to resolve
Over the years through working with many couples that have learned to manage conflict better and restart their communication process, I find that this allows them to feel closer. It enables them to get their relationship back on track.… Continue reading
Why it is Important to First Assess Why Your Relationship is Not Working Before you Separate
One of the biggest mistakes individuals make is deciding to separate without first assessing their real goals and purposes. They need first to figure out why their relationships are not working for them. One of the most common complaints… Continue reading
If You Think the Only Answer to a Struggling Relationship is Divorce… Think Again!
It is a common belief that relationship separations always lead to divorce. This is a myth!
My direct experience and research shows that separations do not always lead to divorce or breaking up. After working with hundreds of couples, many… Continue reading
Improving and Practicing your Communication Skills Part 2: Listening Skills
Relationships grow and develop when partners work on improving communication skills. In part 1 of this article we discussed talking skills; now we move onto listening skills.
Listen:
When I ask you to listen to me and you start… Continue reading
Improving and Practicing your Communication Skills
Relationships grow and develop when partners work on improving Communications skills
Talking Skills
Talking and listening go together
Remember when school started in the fall and you had to write a paper or talk about what you did over the… Continue reading
Infidelity
Here’s a look at some of the questions that arise with infidelity:
- Why infidelity occurs?
- Who’s to blame?
- Can a couple recover from an affair?
- How to evaluate whether a couple can survive and recover?
- What it takes to recover.… Continue reading
Read Bob's comments on: How To Tell if You Should Get Back Together with an Ex in Women's Health online magazine 5/20/14
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/getting-back-togetherBook review from Amazon.com
5.0 out of 5 stars best book I have read in a long time, very thorough.
- Hannah Latta
This review is from: Taking Space: How To Use Separation To Explore The Future Of Your Relationship (Kindle Edition)
"This book is by far the best book I have read on the subject of separation. The author is extremely thorough in describing various scenarios of different couples, their conflict, type of separation, process of resolution or dissolution. It touches on how to talk to the children, goals during separation, how long to separate, and what kind of separation to use for different cases. I appreciate the depth and length the author went in sharing his experience in this book to help others."