taking space
Ten Steps to Structure and Manage Your Separation
Taking Space – How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship
Four Common Mistakes Couples Make During Separation
1. Failure to set goals – Often couples do not focus on what they want to accomplish during a period of separation. Individual and relationship goals are not established. Without clear goals and shared responsibility, partners return to their relationship… Continue reading
“We tried a separation and it didn’t work!”
Physical separations alone will not necessarily change old patterns!
Jane is in a new marriage. Jane’s last husband had affairs and eventually left her. Jane has what I call “a large scar on her heart” from being left. She also… Continue reading
Separation always leads to divorce…NOT!
One type of separation does NOT fit all! If you’re thinking about separating, choose from the following menu:
One of the biggest myths about separation is that “they always end in divorce”. In over 30 years of working with couples… Continue reading
The two most important skills needed for productive communication: Listening and Validating
Communication between partners breaks down when there are defensive reactions such as: blame, criticisms, putdowns, name calling, sarcasm, interruptions, withdrawal, etc.
Underneath these non productive reactions is often hurt, fear, unmet needs and wants and sadness. Old feelings buried inside… Continue reading
Is communication with your partner like a volley ball game where blame gets tossed back and forth?
Some couples communication patterns are filled with blame, accusations, finger pointing and fault finding. Some issue comes up in the conversation that seems to push the defensive button for a least one partner. Because relationship communication goes back and forth… Continue reading
Why is conflict in your relationship so important?
How do you fight with your partner?
John and Mary sat in their counselor’s office and proudly stated, “We never fight!”
They continued to explain that their relationship was at an all time low point. They spoke very little… Continue reading
Before you delete your relationship, try hitting the pause button!
Could a separation help a struggling relationship?
Hello, I’m Bob Buchicchio and welcome to my blog. I’m very excited about this blog since I have been planning and thinking about it for a long time. I have been working with… Continue reading
Read Bob's comments on: How To Tell if You Should Get Back Together with an Ex in Women's Health online magazine 5/20/14
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/getting-back-togetherBook review from Amazon.com
5.0 out of 5 stars best book I have read in a long time, very thorough.
- Hannah Latta
This review is from: Taking Space: How To Use Separation To Explore The Future Of Your Relationship (Kindle Edition)
"This book is by far the best book I have read on the subject of separation. The author is extremely thorough in describing various scenarios of different couples, their conflict, type of separation, process of resolution or dissolution. It touches on how to talk to the children, goals during separation, how long to separate, and what kind of separation to use for different cases. I appreciate the depth and length the author went in sharing his experience in this book to help others."