1. Failure to set goals – Often couples do not focus on what they want to accomplish during a period of separation. Individual and relationship goals are not established. Without clear goals and shared responsibility, partners return to their relationship… Continue reading
Physical separations alone will not necessarily change old patterns!
Jane is in a new marriage. Jane’s last husband had affairs and eventually left her. Jane has what I call “a large scar on her heart” from being left. She also… Continue reading
One type of separation does NOT fit all! If you’re thinking about separating, choose from the following menu:
One of the biggest myths about separation is that “they always end in divorce”. In over 30 years of working with couples… Continue reading
Communication between partners breaks down when there are defensive reactions such as: blame, criticisms, putdowns, name calling, sarcasm, interruptions, withdrawal, etc.
Underneath these non productive reactions is often hurt, fear, unmet needs and wants and sadness. Old feelings buried inside… Continue reading
Some couples communication patterns are filled with blame, accusations, finger pointing and fault finding. Some issue comes up in the conversation that seems to push the defensive button for a least one partner. Because relationship communication goes back and forth… Continue reading
How do you fight with your partner?
John and Mary sat in their counselor’s office and proudly stated, “We never fight!”
They continued to explain that their relationship was at an all time low point. They spoke very little… Continue reading
Could a separation help a struggling relationship?
Hello, I’m Bob Buchicchio and welcome to my blog. I’m very excited about this blog since I have been planning and thinking about it for a long time. I have been working with… Continue reading