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Has your partner left you or is asking for a separation?
Taking Space provides struggling couples and individuals with a step by step roadmap for managing different types of separations. This model allows partners to take a proactive pause to reduce conflict and focus on self growth so an informed decision about the future of their relationship can be made. -
Has an affair disrupted your relationship?
This is the journey of a couple that is propelled into a crisis when Sandy discovers Jeff is having an affair. It discusses what couples must do after an affair and outlines the necessary steps to recovery. -
Does your partner refuse to work on your relationship?
ShutdownSpouse Margie believes she desperately needs space to emotionally survive a relationship with Tim who struggles with depression, low self-esteem and alcohol abuse. This demonstrates how one person alone can take charge and make changes in a very stuck relationship. -
Do you know what to do to stop fighting, make up and start talking with your partner?
Randy and Jane's journey through a physical separation and counseling is an excellent demonstration of how to stop arguing, learn to make-up and start communicating once again to rebuild a relationship.
Taking Space – How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship
by Robert J. Buchicchio, LICSW, DCSW.
Taking Space is a roadmap for individuals, couples and counselors to follow for relationships that are stuck, unfulfilling or in crisis. Learn how to apply this 10-step problem-solving guide to situations like: dwindling romance; affairs; uncommunicative partners; overwhelmed moms; unsatisfying sex, etc. Winner of the Independent Publishers Award - this book is one of the best kept secrets in marriage counseling today - receiving excellant reader reviews on both Amazon and Barnes & Noble.
"If your relationship has come to an emotional stand-still, reading this book can help you re-establish a means of communication and cement a more positive foundation for interaction."
"The concept of taking a "time out" to be with yourself and improve yourself so that you can be a better person in your relationship is priceless advice. All of those folks in that danger zone of divorce or separation need the suggestions given in this book."
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Couples Home Study Course
If you don't want to read the book, then listen to it!
The Couples Home Study Course is an enhanced version of Bob's book Taking Space - with updated materials and couples stories all on CDs plus 40 page workbook. Buy the entire course or individual CDs. Entire course purchases receive a FREE DVD with purchase.
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The Couples Home Study Course is designed to empower you to take charge of you and your relationship. Created to help struggling couples examine their individual needs and wants both inside and outside the relationship - the Couples Home Study Course teaches you what you can do right now to make changes in your relationship.
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Telephone Consultations and Coaching
Initial conversations about my services are FREE.
Experience Counts When You Need It Most!
Get the support you need while going through one of the most difficult times in your life. As a marriage counselor with over 30 years of experience - I have helped thousands of couples explore themselves and their relationships often with positive outcomes.
Whether you are an INDIVIDUAL OR COUPLE seeking assistance I can help you to:
- Strengthen and improve your relationship
- Manage a separation or divorce
- Reconcile and recover from an affair
- Work on Personal growth and self development
Initial conversations about my services are FREE. Call or email to schedule a consultation and begin exploring the future of your relationship.
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Office: 802-229-0749
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The Separation Agreement
The Separation Agreement provides an outline that allows you to focus on terms and goals of what will be worked on and over what period of time.
I so often hear "We tried a separation and it didn't work!" This often translates to "We tried a separation but we or one of us didn't work!" Most couples separate, but have little idea of what they are working on during the separation period.
The Separation Agreement helps couples clearly define what they will be working on during the separation as individuals and as a couple. In addition it helps couples assign roles for the maintenance of household tasks such as bill paying, upkeep, childcare etc.
One of the key components to effective separation, it is often the most neglected aspect of a separation.
Click here to learn more about the Separation Agreement.
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Call now to discuss setting up phone consultations and coaching.
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Is Marriage Possible After Separation?
May 22, 2011
A common assumption is that separation always leads to divorce. This is a myth! I believe that with some hard work on the part of couples that this does not always have to be the case. I have worked with many couples who have used separation to improve their relationship, grow as individuals and create [...]
Four Common Mistakes Couples Make During Separation
May 12, 2011
1. Failure to set goals – Often couples do not focus on what they want to accomplish during a period of separation. Individual and relationship goals are not established. Without clear goals and shared responsibility, partners return to their relationship with the same expectations and behavior that have gotten them stuck repeatedly. A great way [...]
“We tried a separation and it didn’t work!”
Jun 21, 2010
Physical separations alone will not necessarily change old patterns! Jane is in a new marriage. Jane’s last husband had affairs and eventually left her. Jane has what I call “a large scar on her heart” from being left. She also had a mean and abusive alcoholic father that criticized her throughout childhood. Jane seems to [...]
In-house Separations can be least destructive to children and easier on finances!
In-house separations can be especially attractive for both financial reasons and can be least disruptive to children. Parents can continue to be available to their children daily while they figure out what they are going to do with their relationship. In-house separations are usually short-term and offer couples a cool down period during a particularly [...]
Separation always leads to divorce…NOT!
One type of separation does NOT fit all! If you’re thinking about separating, choose from the following menu: One of the biggest myths about separation is that “they always end in divorce”. In over 30 years of working with couples I have come to realize that the most common misunderstanding among people is that they [...]